How to successfully navigate Valentine’s on good and bad days all through life ? Holding on to the one true feeling you will carry all along : loving yourself and sharing your heart. Be your valentine.

February 14.

Official day of love and friendship, Valentine is nonetheless just another day on the calendar. Another day that somehow turned into a commercial outing, banking on people’s sentiments to follow the path. But not all of us are prepared to face a day of celebration as we see waves of pink and hearts unfurling day after day until the big event. For at that very moment in our life, we might simply not be able to embrace an emotion that has lost its meaning. For whatever reason it might be. No matter how long it might last. So how to sail through the day on those stormy seas of questioning and reassessment ? Easy. Be your Valentine.

Loving Me Is Loving You.

Are we in a relationship ? Well, love starts with us. How can we ask our better half to desire us if we do not have any respect for our own person ? To be cherished, we need to feel that it is justified. We have to feel that we can give something genuine and positive to the other party. Something to build on, a part of us that we are proud of.

Self-esteem is crucial to a long lasting and healthy relationship. Not personal pride and gloating. But rather the understanding that we are worthwhile. That we deserve to be appreciated, to be nurtured. So we can give our very best to the person we share a relationship with and make them feel that they are special too.

Personal Growth.

Self-respect is brought by healthy living habits. Eating well, taking care of our body, of our mind. Developing and nourishing pastimes that elevate us. Making sure we keep evolving throughout our journey.

Always looking for something new, something more to add to the depth of our personality. Discovering unexplored heights. A bold venture maybe. Getting adventurous in the epic way of the term. By believing in ourselves, we can share something of the essence and meaningful for the people that count.

The Greatness Of Singlehood.

Living alone ? Each and everyone of us has experienced or will experience living en solo at one point or another—or currently is. It is a reality of life. Even further, it is a necessity. It is the only way to truly face and discover who we really are. To go to the bottom of things, to the bottom of truth waiting to be revealed. Being unaccompanied is the most genuine way to find ourselves. It shows us with no sugar coating who we truly are. What we are capable of and how far we can go.

Whether it is for a short while or a life long experience. Whether it is a careful decision or something that fell upon us by surprise, unwelcome even. Or whether it became a necessity. Getting to accept our individuality, just the way we are, is important. But appreciating ourselves for who we are is even more crucial. If we don’t have the look from a partner to mirror the good that lies within us, then we need to remember ourselves why we are valuable and how to keep up our good habits to live a fuller life.

Where We Are In Our Journey.

Living alone is a time to face realities and reflect on where we are at a certain time. And also to compare with what we thought we would be at that very moment when we were young. It is a wake up call for some of us. It can be harsh. Nonetheless it is an opportunity to see what we achieved. How far we have come. To realize what we have been able to accomplish. And eventually to face what we want to change. What we want to keep and what we want to pursue or let go. It is a journey we need to start with leniency and compassion.

So how to deal with Valentine when we actually did not manage to concur with Cupidon ? No matter what is our reality, we celebrate the one true love we shall never lose. On Valentine, we value ourselves and share our heart, to the best extend possible. Be our Valentine.

Strong Roots Make For A Strong Tree.

Eventually, once we can truly, honestly show some deep affection to us, then caring for others is only natural. So simple. So smooth. Sharing that feeling of warmth, of home. Spreading security and ease all around.

How sweet is it to spare sugar when we have a sack full of it ? How easy is it to build a roof when a solid framing is already up ? How smooth is it to sail once the ship has passed the reef. How comforting is it to break bread together when the loaf is just off the oven…

Caring And Sharing.

Finally, love does not necessarily have to be romantic either. It has many faces, many translations. It is far and wide. And it is universal. So care for you and share your heart. Live the day fully, with whoever you want to. However you want to. Just start with being your Valentine.

Love yourself, and embrace to be loved.